Single Parent mhuri

Maererano nokuongorora kwakaitwa vaviri makuru masimba enyika (Russia uye United States), vanenge 30% vana kurerwa mumakore achangopfuura, dzine mubereki. Chikonzero ichi anova kurambana (kuparadzana) pakati vabereki, kutanga kushaya ukama hwemhuri (kuberekwa kunze kwomuchato), rufu amai kana baba. Kukwana mhuri, Chokwadi, kwete mutongo. Mumhuri yakadaro mwana anogona kukura kukura utano uye pfungwa yakadzikama uye nzwisisika. Asi kwete nguva dzose. Zvarakasiya zvichiri kuitika. Uye kazhinji zvakakwana.

Kuti vave nechokwadi mwana kukura pacharo, pasina mavambo uye kugadzira phobias siyana, vanoda imwe mhuri apo kutarisirwa chichapiwa rwakabhadharwa kuna mwana uye hadzi divi (mubereki) uye chirume (baba) - mhuri yakakwana.

Psychology anotsanangura neurotic kukura, maitiro asina kutsarukana uye patoharakterologicheskie chikuru kushaya imwe mhuri mwana zvakakwana. Parent mhuri zvinoratidzwa pre-kuchikoro vakomana moodiness uye chemaneka, causeless obstinacy uye kunyange nezvikwekwe; vasikana rinowanzoberekera chokundandama. Kutya kuchikoro zera kwete chete hakuiti kuenda, asi anowedzera. Uye maitiro asina kutsarukana vane zvakawanda raidudzwa. Izvi imhaka huta breakdowns mai, vabereki inorwisana kwete kurambana, asi nguva refu pashure. Uyezve, vana kunokosha chaizvo zvakakwana muenzaniso chechikadzi nokuzivikanwa, iyo kupa mhuri imwe kukwana asingagoni.

The initiator of kuparadzana yemanyorero hadzi divi (mai), kugutswa mune zvimwe zviitiko, kunyanya softness murume wake "nekusagona kurarama", apo vamwe - zvakare egocentric uye vanachandagwinyira kuratidzwa kutonga. Duku basa, oddly zvakakwana, anoridza vabereki kunyange chidhakwa.

A zvakafanana kukonzera hysterical neurosis vakomana - pasina baba vake simba, uye ane utsinye mupfungwa mai Kugamuchira. Kazhinji, asiwo nokuda interpersonal, kwete kare kubvumirwa, amai kunetsana nevabereki vake. Amai sei kunounza ukama izvi vana, achiva mumwe kunobva kunaka mupfungwa zvikuru.

Dzimwe nguva pane "involuntary redirection" mai negative mwanakomana wake paanokwegura zvakawanda sezvinoita baba vake. Kunyanya kana nhaka kwete chete nechitarisiko chavo, zvichingodaro "unongoda zvakapusa," "Newewo, haagoni kuita chinhu", Nemamwe mashoko, amai anopa mamwe kugadzwa pachigaro chete uduku mwana wako. Somugumisiro - kushaya chivimbo, kunyara, kana, nekusiyana, utsinye uye kushaya kuzvidzora.

Mumhuri ine mubereki apo amai tichiita dzidzo, hukama navanakomana vake zvikuru kunetsana pane pamwe nevanasikana vavo.

The akaputsika mhuri, amai kazhinji anodzoka kumba vabereki vake. Sezvingatarisirwa, ivo kutsigira mwanasikana, kuwana mukupesana aimbova mwanakomana-mu. Uye kwete nguva dzose kunyange kuziva, kusika wokuwedzera kunambwa pamusoro psyche, kwokudzvinyirira pamusoro mwana, pachena kuratidza ruvengo urwu uye Akashorwa nomuzukuru akafanana nababa vake, achiwedzera kuti uduku zvakaitika.

Dzimwe nguva madzimai rasai yembudzi kuti vanachiremba, varapi, vadzidzisi uye mapoka kindergartens rokudzidzisa-usiku uye zvikoro chebhodho. Kana vana vari kusiyira kugara mai vake, kutarisira pavo pamutemo akasiyana zvishoma kana tichienzanisa kutarisira vana vari mumhuri dzine vabereki vaviri, asi kusiyana kudzorwa - zvinokosha. Girls vane mitemo vashoma kupfuura vakomana. Uye kumanikidzwa pamusoro pavo shoma zvikuru. Yakasimba anotonga pachinhu vana nokuda nechido kutiza zvichibvira kopi baba vake unhu. Saka mhosva, kutyisidzira uye kurova pachinhu vakomana kakawanda kushanda. Uye, Asiwo ndoga mwanasikana, amai anoreva kwaari nokungwarira uye zvinyoronyoro. Neimwe nokuti anoona kuti ive kuwedzera pacharo uye, achida mwanasikana haana kusvika pachake.

Kuparadzana vabereki kunokanganisa musikana zvikuru zvinoshamisa kana akasungirirwa kuna baba vake kupfuura mai vake. Reactive akaturikidzana inogona kuwedzerwa uye kutya kurasikirwa mai vake, kureva kutya kusurukirwa uye zindoga. Dzarasika baba vake, vasikana vangangoramba kupfuura vakomana vanotya ndirege kuzvida Mother. Vanotya kuti haana kuuya amai kamwe shure, kana kuti chinhu kuitika. Wedzerai kunopindirana wekutya, zvakajairika kutya kwakamuka pazera duku. Naizvozvo - diagnoses: kufunganya neurosis, hysterical neurosis. Uye mune ramangwana - neurosis, nyanyisa-muropa nyonganyonga: tsika nhamo, pfungwa kukundikana, kuchengeteka, phobias.

Panguva ouduku zera kare rinonzwika zvakajeka mwoyo-neurotic zviratidzo: akaora mwoyo, kuora mwoyo, kushaya tariro, kusavimbana, kugara kutya, kushaya chivimbo mavari, zvinoitika nokuda sokuti kukundikana, kuomarara muchiwadzana wechirume, nokufamba mukati sarudzo.

mhuri kukwana zvechokwadi haisi mutongo. Vision mukati ukama nemwana, shangu mushure disintegration wemhuri, kuti vaende imwe mupfungwa uye kugadzira phobias siyana. Musakanganwa chikuru chinhu: mwana haisi mhosva kuti haana ukama nedzevakuru. In mubereki mhuri tsitsi, rutsigiro uye kutsigira zvinodikanwa pakutanga mwana, ane dambudziko rave kugadziriswa pasina ruzivo rwake kana mvumo ...