4 tsika dzinogona kukanganisa kukurukura

Sei haana kudana shure? Nei asina iye yakaunyana dzimwe majee angu? Nei vasingachadi vanoda kusangana uye kuva Chat? Ko uchimbonzwa waita chinhu chakaipa uye nokudaro sabotaging kutaura (kana, kuipa, ukama)?

Kana taigara munyika akakwana, tinogona kuongorora mamiriro edu hwokukurukurirana achibatsirwa dzinokosha michina uye kugamuchira hwakadzama kuongorora. Tinogona kudzidza zvakadzama pamusoro zvinokwaniswa zvose zvedu uye utera, pamusoro zvakanaka uye zvakaipa tsika, kunyange manyorero zvataitaura.

Sezvineiwo, une shamwari yakanaka ndiani nguva dzose kuudza chii chakaipa nzira yauri kutaura. Oh, hamuna ichi? Musafunganya, hausi woga. Kana tinokanganisa mukutaura, vakawanda vedu hatizombofi kuzviziva. Vanhu chete vanosarudza kurega dzokukurukurirana nesu. Uye newe kuti kuita chinhu.

Pamwe hauna shamwari kana chinokosha midziyo kuti kunongedzera zvawakakanganisa, asi ungada kufunga rakajairika matambudziko panguva runhare. Aongorora pachako, unogona kuva nechokwadi chokuti zvimwe hamungandivambi bvoronga zvamunotaura uye ukama.

Ngatitorei vanyatsoona mana makuru tsika dzakaipa pakukurukurirana.

1. Uri chihwenga?

Unofunga kuti uri kuramba perefraziruete kana kudzokorora zvandakataura kwamuri mumwe munhu? Kana iye anoti "CHINOTYISA" iwe unoti, "Hongu, yaiva here inotonhorera firimu?" "Remaparrot" vanoedzesera kuva vari kutaura, asi chokwadi, regai kuita chinhu kuedza kuti ichi. Vanonyanya sezvinoita ungira, kana kudzokororwa mumwe.

Kana iwe unoziva kuti kuramba kudzokorora kuti munhu, edza kuwedzera kuti mitsetse zvavo zvakawanda ane maonero uye, zvinhu mashoko.

2. Uri simba Vampire?

Unogona kuudza zvinonakidza nyaya uye kuratidza pfungwa yavo, asi kana wanga usina kutsigirwa dengetera zvose izvi, vanhu vanogona kusvika pakugumisa kuti muri zvakaoma chaizvo kuteerera. Kushaya manzwiro uye simba panguva kukurukura anogona kukanganisa nhaurirano iyi dzichimhanya kupfuura dzimwe tsika chero yakaipa. Kukurukurirana zvakanaka kuva mupenyu, uye mativi vanofanira kutsinhanisa simba panguva imwe chete. Kana usina simba, zvino kuuya kazhinji, iwe chete tibatsirwe nayo.

Funga kuti inzwi rako - ndicho chinotenderera Chinoshamisa kukwira kuti vateereri. Ungave uri kutanga sandarara uye bhowa kutyaira? Edza kuita kwako chinotenderera Chinoshamisa yakanaka kuti imwe vateereri. Kushandura kumhanya, kuwedzera madudziro emazwi, intonation kuchinja uye tara mashoko anokosha.

Uye mukuwedzera, kunyora inzwi rako patepi. Kutaura zvazviri, verenga chikamu ichi kwomuzvarirwo inzwi rako uye muteerere kurekodha. Kana iwe kumbobvira aita pamberi, iwe uchava kushamiswa.

3. Iwe oneka narrator?

Oneka narrator anogara chakakomba uye akarurama nyika. Kana munhu akadaro chinoenda kuenda kicheni, uye iwe kumubvunza kwaaienda, nguva dzose anoti: "Muna mukicheni." Zvose akati vanhu vakadaro, ndiko oneka, havakwanisi kuva chinhu vakashamiswa. Mukupesana, tamba narrator anogona kupindura mubvunzo nezvimwewo uye hauna kuziva kutarisira kubva kwaari. Kwakadaro uye zvinofanira kuva kukurukura: tamba uye nezvimwewo.

Nguva dzose kudzidzisa pfungwa dzako kuti kukwanisa panguva kukwira mhinduro asingatarisirwi. Nguva inotevera mumwe akakubvunza mubvunzo kana kutaura chimwe chinhu, funga pamusoro mhinduro, akatendeukira tamba uye nezvimwewo (mukati chikonzero). Zvadaro shandisa rimwe hutsva mashoko ako uone zvinoitika. Uchashamisika.

4. Uri narcissistic murume?

Narcissistic vanhu vakawanda vanoda kutaura pachavo. Chikonzero chete nei vanogona kukumbira mumwe munhu sei yaaipedza pakupera kwevhiki, ndiko kutaura kuti iye pachake. Vanowanzova kuudza: "Zvakanaka ... asi imi hamutendi zvichaita zvakaitika kwandiri." Kutaurirana nemunhu akadaro angangotadza kuunza mufaro. Daffodils vasingawanzova kufarira zvomumwe munhu zvachose kusafarira kana kubvunza mimwe mibvunzo. Chinangwa chikuru chemusha yokwaNakisasi chero kukurukurirana - kuzviratidza kuna vose kumativi kuti ndiye nani zvikuru pane vamwe.

Zviri nyore kugadzira, kana zvechokwadi zvinoitika mumwe munhu. Kana mumwe munhu akakuudza nezvako, uchifunga kuti munhu, bvunza mibvunzo inoda kufunga uye mashoko anoratidza munhu kuti uri nyatsoteerera.